“Life begins at the end of your comfort zone”
I was lazying around on the sofa watching a 2 star Netflix movie (and therefore very much in my comfort zone!) when I heard this sentence. Google tells me that this statement comes from a Neale Donald Walsh. Wikipedia tells me that Neale Donald Walsch – born September 10, 1943 – is an American author of the series ‘Conversations with God’ and he is also an actor, screenwriter, and speaker.
Today I have so far not ventured from my comfort zone because I am enjoying being at home. I am always complaining that I am not home enough so it seems to makes sense that while on annual leave I should have at least one day when I do not leave the house. That is of course pure luxury these days given the amount of things that I need to do but I think that time to recharge and reflect is vital. I have spent the last four weeks tidying my little flat to make it a place that I enjoy coming back to – so I might as well enjoy it for at least one day.
However while rejuvenating myself (aka washing and conditioning my hair and completing a much needed facial) I thought I should better reflect on what the end of my comfort zone might mean me for me.
The default position is the comfort zone – it’s safe predictable and I know the rules. It would seem sensible not to rock the boat – especially when one peers out at the rest of the world. Change represents fear and the unknown. I suppose the point is that the comfort zone does not necessarily help me grow and develop. It is a place to rest, recover and recuperate but there is no expansion or change. I will not necessarily know my full potential in the comfort zone. I will not test my limits or push my boundaries in the comfort zone. I will not experience new things in the comfort zone.
So where is the end of the comfort zone?
These days anything outside my flat…
Well – perhaps that is an exaggeration. My whole way of life is comfort zone. That’s not to say that it is easy – in fact far from it. I struggle to keep my head above the water for the majority of the time. I know that I need to change this way of living because in the end it will not be good for me. However it is predictable in it’s own chaotic way and I am fearful of the unknown even though it might be better for me in the long run. There is another quote “Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” So I am not insane but I need to seriously consider changing my thought patterns and expectations. I need to push my limits but in the right way.
Where do I think I need to direct my focus? Probably work and relationships. I am used to being a certain way with people and I wonder if that means – I do not get to pursue my goals to their fullest extent. I wonder if I need to change my attitude to people. That would definitely be stepping out of my comfort zone but it might make me make progress. I am a people pleaser but it does not help me.
Really – what I am saying that my comfort zone is in my mind and my attitude. I need to be tougher with myself and other people. It will in the long run it might be the kindest thing of all.